1 In 3 American Moms Getting Action On The Side

Natalie 05-14-2008

You or someone you know is having an affair. We know, it sounds surprising, shocking even, but apparently that is the case. Cookie Magazine and "AOL Body" did a survey on the subject and 30,000 people responded. As far as surveys go, that is a big number, and it's even bigger when you consider that their questions were aimed solely at married women with children. Yep, lots of mommies are getting action on the side.

The survey, "Sex and the American Mom," revealed that 34% of these married moms is in the midst of, or has already had, an affair. Think of three married moms you know and ask yourself, "Which one is cheating?" We tried this and Colleen came up empty. Taylor could think of one or two, but not one out of three--that number seems staggering. Are we just naïve? In the dark? Out of touch? Which of our friends has managed to stray without anyone knowing (and when do they find the time and where they hell do they go?)?

Another somewhat mind-blowing result of this survey was that 77% of the respondents said they want more sex. That's more than three quarters of the 30,000 women asked who said they aren't getting enough. Again, we ask, who are these people? And are we to conclude that so many stray because they are not sexually satisfied?

Cheating seems to be a direct result of not getting what you need, be it sex, attention, openness, what have you. If there is a void, and it can be filled by someone else, chances are it will be. Affairs used to almost guarantee a trip to divorce court. Today, however, the "cheatee" might experience a sense of betrayal, but the "cheater" is not necessarily stigmatized socially, and often both agree to at least attempt reconciliation. It has even been viewed as a "wake-up call" -- one that can actually save a marriage, with each person expressing a sense of shared blame.

As a society, it seems as though we've become less judgmental about affairs in general. Maybe we've realized how hard marriage is and have simply gotten more realistic. But, maybe the scope of the issue is bigger, and what's happening is that we're in the midst of redefining marriage as we have known it.

The stereotype, of course, is if there's someone sneaking around in a marriage, it's the guy. In general, no one is surprised to hear that men cheat on their wives. However, when it comes to wives cheating on their husbands, while not entirely new, it is much more common than we thought. When we told men that one in three married moms cheat (or have cheated) on their husbands, and that a solid majority are actually looking for more sex than they're having at home, most mens' eyes light up with surprise and certainly curiosity. Some even joked about where they might find one of these gals. But, what we didn't hear was "Yes, I can understand that. I'm not in the mood very often and I'm probably not satisfying my wife's sexual desires."

Raven

This really doesn't surprise me, for anyone who's spent time with Sin when he's single, this is all more then common right here. Most guys just get way too relax when they with someone.

Hsoolien

The stat does not surprise me, it's not longer the taboo it was to cheat. We all really have it quite easy when it comes to longterm relationships compared to our parents/grandparents. For us quitting or cheating is as simple as stopping the fucking of someone else, or the starting of fucking someone else without the other one knowing, and nobody cares. So obviously we as a generation are a.) no where near the people out parents/grandparents were, we are weak pathetic images of. b.) We're also a bunch of untrustworthy liars, if you can cheat, you have zero credibility, you're absolutely untrustworthy, you're pathetic, if we can't trust you to keep a oath to a relationship made before your gods, or in your best words, then what can we trust you with? It's too bad this society values life over human beings.

Jessica

Man and women both get too complicent when it comes to relationships alot of time. Couples only worry about today instead of tommorrow, its just how some people are.

Stephyi

I really dislike how people are these days. I wish it was like the old days. Where you fell in love and it stayed that way. People these days just don't believe in that. It's kind of depressing.

spawnschickishot

welll i havent cheated i can honestly say i am a flirt however but i just cant see giving myself to another man woman yes maybe lol i dunno but if i was to be with another woman my husband knows i like women and we have an agreement that if we arent happy in the relationship we would be totally honest about it and just str8 up say it same goes if he wanted to be with another woman i dont really care i love him thats all that matters... we would find a way to work around it i think ... lol i think im totally devoted ... although i sometimes wonder if he is to me as i am to him i think im too nice lmfao

Hsoolien

I think they just tried harder because they had too, thus when you stayed in love it was because you got through all the bad parts, because you had, there was no easy choice to run away.